A Week in the Life of Connie

Hello Connie fans!  After seeing a sweet angel yesterday who mentioned this blog I thought I'd give you a taste for a week in the life of Con/Mom.  She continues to maintain her positive outlook and is very optimistic of the months ahead.

After a weekend of house guests and their gourmet group, Con/Mom and Dad/Dave are settling back into their house of two, or three, I suppose. :)  Jack the dog is certainly large enough to be counted.   Just ask sweet Carol B. who he brought toys to yesterday.

Mondays are a day of therapy for Con/Mom and sister Sue usually takes her.  They try to get two sessions in a day so she only has to go two days a week.  It doesn't always work out, though.  So, Con/Mom had OT and speech and Dad/Dave has some time to work a little and run errands.

Tuesday I normally visit and we do yoga.  Now that the pool is covered up, we're done with pool therapy.  Parker and I helped Dad/Dave cover it up and now Jack stalks the frogs that get on top of the cover.  This Tuesday, however, we had speech therapy so I took her to that.  She's working on the letters of the alphabet and their sounds.

Wednesday Con/Mom and Dad/Dave played bridge together! Cute!  Con/Mom is in a couple bridge groups and sometimes they need a sub and he happened to be free.

Thursday morn Con/Mom played bridge, again. Another woman in their sub picks her up and they play at Meadowbrook Country Club.  It's a day I usually visit and we normally have speech therapy so we played cribbage instead.  Con/Mom whopped me! Cribbage is a family tradition for most of us.

Friday, today, I picked her up for mass and sister Sue met us there.  Suzie visits on Friday so she took her home and I'm off to visit my mother-in-law, who is turning 90 this month!

So, you can see she is busy!  She is enjoying the flowers and notes that still come in and I know if she could she would be taking care of all of us!  Just yesterday as we sat down to play cards she said to me, "what can I do for you?". Sigh. It was nice to unload the dishwasher together; it's the little things in life that should not be overlooked.

Time passes and seasons change, but love will never die.  As I watch my parents embrace my heart melts.  They are truly blessed, but often blessings are hard to see in the midst of adversity.  Faith carries Con/Mom just like a bird in flight.  Her spirit has not been shattered and this is what we need to remember.

Today we remember our Holy Mother who said yes with the Rosary.  Take a moment to pray the rosary alone or with your family and reflect on her love not unlike the love of our own mothers.

Getting pretty at Legato with her dear friend, Diane.

How Well Do You Know Your Mom?

Thanks to one of my besties for this one.....

Here, it's about Con/Mom, but you could reflect on your own mother, too. :)

 1. She is sitting in front of the TV, what is she watching? National Geographic Channel or golf

2. Usually what dressing does she eat on her salad? Caesar salad/dressing with anchovies rules

3. Name a food she hates? most fruit

4. You go out to eat. What does she order to drink? water, no ice with lemon (other than sauvignon blanc, of course)

5. Favorite music to listen to?  spa or CD's I've made her

6. What is her nickname for you? Marianne Jean the Queen

7. What is something she could collect? buttons (heirlooms), ten of everything :)

8. What would she eat every day if she could? liverwurst or chips and dip

9. What is her favorite cereal? I don't think she really eats cereal, but oatmeal, yes

10. What would she never wear? a bra whenever possible

11. What is her favorite sports team? Tigers

12. What is something that you do that she wishes you wouldn't ?  maybe more like something I did

13.You bake her a cake for her birthday, what kind is it? lemon meringue pie

14. Favorite animals? Other than her baby boy, Jack, she does love to watch the birds in her yard just like her parents. Dad/Dave has diligently fed the Baltimore Orioles grape jelly and orange slices all summer.

15. What could she spend all day doing? golfing and gardening, but actually.....serving others.  

Back to Business!

We're happy that Con/Mom's return to therapy is commencing a bit sooner than we thought.  She began assessments last week and will wrap them up this week so she can begin with her OT, PT and speech again at the DMC in Novi.

They have seen some nice improvements thus far so she is very pleased to hear that!  They will continue to work on developing her neuro pathways to bring her thoughts and speech together. Basically, repetition is the key here.

PT and OT are still needed to strengthen her arm and leg and create more movement.  They are pleased to see her right hand is in good shape (no atrophy) even though she's still working on grasp. Currently, the thrust of her arm movement comes from the shoulder area.

I've run into lots of her friends and I've passed along well wishes.  Thank you all for the continued prayers and support.  Dad/Dave continues to be her right hand and though he has a good routine down, he is still on his own arduous journey. Their lifelong partnership has proven the key to recovery including patience, love and optimism.

Have a blessed day!

Happy Birthday, Connie!

I thought it appropriate to send an update on Con/Mom's 71st birthday!  Today we celebrate this lovely woman, Goddess, mother, matriarch, sister, daughter, wife, friend, and Catwoman!

She is plugging away at her daily exercises with her main man, Dave/Dad.  He continues to be an amazing partner and is juggling their new lives with patience (yes, patience) and love.  I continue to add chair yoga to her weekly routine and she walks in the pool on nice day, which are a lot right now.

Official therapy will resume after Labor Day as she continues to adapt to the changes that were brought upon her.  She was never a napper, but has worked one into her daily routine and it has proven helpful for her energy level.

Her body continues to heal and new sensations develop often on her right side.  She was tickled pink when her jaw cam alive and now her ear is tingling.  Hearing was not affected, but feeling was.

So, Con/Mom is enjoying her summer to the best of her ability and taking the year to work arduously to get closer to her old self.  She occasionally joins Dad/Dave in their couples golf league to putt left handed and mingle with dear friends.  I'm awaiting her return to the game as I enjoyed three years with her in a women's league.

Cherish your time folks with those you love.  Whether it be fate, karma, luck (good/bad) or divine intervention, you never know what tomorrow holds.  Wraps those babes in your arms, kiss your partner, reduce that to-do list and enjoy the best things in life.....time with family!

Moving Along...

No changes from Con/Mom, but she is enjoying her pretty yard!  Her fur baby is getting some much needed air and so are the rest of us! :)

I think I have become the official bird feeder as Dad/Dave is working a bit more now. The finch get their thistle, the Baltimore orioles get their grape jelly and the rest of their fowl feathered friends get the wild seed mix.

Sister Sue has been the weeding Queen (or should we say Goddess?) and granddaughter Gracie will assist in the garden for summer work.

I helped Con/Mom with some beauty maintenance this week and she is looking as beautiful as ever! There's a quiet peacefulness about her now, but she longs for her right arm to start moving. The left hand/side is getting a lot of use, but is far from replacing the functions of her dominant side.  Of course she is doing her daily exercises and is building strength for her return to therapy in a few months, but she's in a mundane plateau right now and faith surely comes into play during this time. We're even doing chair and aqua yoga!

Many thanks to Mr. Pinochle for stopping in last night to look at the AC.  Come to find out the Griffore's annual winter guests of house mice built quite the large home in the unit and snacked on some wires. Nothing Dad/Dave can't fix with a little help from their good friend!

As we approach the month of June we also reflect back on this amazing couple as they celebrate 50 years of marriage! Yes, the big 5-0 on June 4!  They want to celebrate quietly, but feel free to send well wishes to these childhood love birds.  If we could only emulate their love the world would be a better place. Here's just a few memories of their journey together:

A New Phase: Therapy Break

Con/Mom is doing well. All therapies are breaking now and she has the summer to work on her own (with her #1 buddy, of course) and increase strength and energy.  We had two weeks of chair yoga, too!  Challenging with Jack, but we may get her back in my studio very soon! :)

Dave/Dad has been working more and Con/Mom is enjoying some time on her own, with some visitors, too.  They are getting used to a new routine and trying to adjust to their new way of life, for the moment.  We're getting Con/Mom out more and she even came to the hospital with Dad/Dave to visit my father-in-law who was in hospice on Mother's Day.  We held hands for a prayer circle with the Chaplin and he passed away the next day. :(  Funeral is this Saturday and they'll be there for that, too!  We were able to get in a family brunch later that day, too!

Today, we are all lunching so she can catch up with my husband's sons who are in for the funeral.  No Heart Walk this year since it is this Saturday, but many thanks again for those who donated.  Maybe Con/Mom will join us next year!

She still has yet to tackle the golf course and/or putting green, but we're waiting for good weather.  I think just being there will lift her spirits and keep that positive attitude going!

Sue has Monday's off now so between the two of us we're getting in some nice time with our Mom. We've always been close, but this is a different kind of close that is hard to explain.  She's unloading the dishwasher (left handed) at home as well as doing laundry so that gives her a few things to do during the day.  No bridge this week, but I'm sure they'll be more soon!  She's a card shark by nature!

Hope you are all doing well.  Prayers continue and we will keep you posted on any new news....

A New Month!

Con/Mom is always moving forward in her mind even if her body takes a break.  Unfortunately there are plateaus and occasionally there will be valleys.  Just opening their pool yesterday brought enthusiasm to her face and heart!

All of her therapy suggest a break so she can develop strength and energy, but they may continue her OT, which is for her arm and hand.  She loves Donna, her therapist, and she does whatever she says! I am starting Con/Mom back in yoga on Tuesday, baby steps, of course.  We'll see if Jack doesn't knock her over or we'll have to come back to my studio.

Con/Mom has a busy week ahead with two bridge games/groups and a couples golf league with Dad/Dave Friday night.  She might do some putting or it will just be nice to see some good friends and enjoy the nice weather that is on the way.

Progress also continues with her speech and cognitive functions.  I'm trying to teach her to use Siri to make appointments on her phone. Not sure if she'll get the left hand down first or the speech required for Siri.....either way, there are always options and new ways to function.

In two weeks the American Heart and Stroke Assoc. Heart Walk commences on May 14.  I will be walking for Mom and others as I have done so for many years!  This is my last call out for donations. Even the smallest amount can assist in research in heart disease and stroke!  Thanks to all who have already contributed.  Have a heart!

Another Week of Sunshine

Well, this is my fourth morning with Con/Mom as Dad/Dave has had a work project going on. We had therapy Friday morning (speech and OT) and we're here again with OT. Taking a break from speech therapy for summer, but she has plenty to work on at home!

We took a little ride yesterday to the amazing Farmer John's Boutique and she was overwhelmed with the pretty things! Left empty handed, but now she can dream about the flowers and frills.  Today, she had energy the entire session and returned home to visit with Suzie. Naps are recommended, but it's hard getting accustomed to something you're not used to.

She admits things could be worse, but at the same time she adds that it would be nice if her arm would work. 😞 The nice thing about the therapy is that she meets others in similar scenarios. Some are faced with more challenges than she and others not so much. She can see progress, perseverance and the patience it requires to push forward. I can see how easy it would be to give up with the fatigue and the plateaus, but the will and faith she possesses carries her forward on eagles wings.

I feel great sadness and love simultaneously as I watch her move through a day. What a stroke takes away from a being it gives back a new meaning to commitment. If you've ever looked at a loved one with awe and wonder not unlike one of the Gifts of the Holy Spirit, your come to understand a higher plan. It translates to the beginning of wisdom and an understanding of God.

On a secular level, it boils down to humility. A hard thing for some, but not for Con/Mom.

We humbly ask for continued prayers for peace, patience and grace. The daily grind is no small task and has become cumbersome. Watching my parents navigate through this storm gives new meaning to the phrase "wonder and awe".

Peace and light to all, MJ LaDuke, Bhakti Yoga ૐ

 

Never Ending Story

I love that movie (Never Ending Story)!  If you know it, you'll recall the childlike princess at the end saying "say my name!" several times.  Well, Con/Mom said my name yesterday!  I was putting myself in her phone calendar and I asked her what name should I put in (I have a few LOL) and she got it right out! Joyful day!  Must have been all of that sunshine we were blessed with!

She's doing wonderful!  She was lifting her balloon and working on that right arm/hand diligently. After, we sat in her bed together while the electrodes did there work and we chatted.....so grateful that God gave her ability to speak back to her! So many don't regain that. There are so many good things happening we need to celebrate them!

Her faithful dog, Jack, waited patiently for her to finish her exercises.  Con/Mom stays clear of the pool (for safety) so I put the hose in under the cover to fill it while Dad/Dave was on a refreshing bike ride.  Jack didn't want to come in and he hopped right up into a chair into a little ball, as hard as that is to believe because he's huge! lol

Sister Sue did some much needed weeding last week and we'll finish up this week so the beautiful garden Con/Mom has worked so hard on all these years can continue to bring joy to all!  Speaking of flowers, (get the tissues out) Con/Mom was telling me that she takes three daffodils out of the garden and places them by Dad/Dave's bedside because he likes them. He brings her coffee and she brings him flowers. Sigh.  The romance continues to bloom despite the fatigue and arduous circumstances.

We missed her in church today along with her church husband, Clarence. :(  He is battling a few medical issues so our row is a little low right now, but sister Sue, Auntie Carol and I hold it together. It's just not the same with our special people there.....God is teaching us all lessons and just like other major life events, we all are affected in our own way.  It's our quest to decipher the meaning and let grace, patience, and wisdom take over more than ever!

So, continue the prayers as we continue the journey together.  Thanks to all for the love that you extend to us all!  Enjoy our much anticipated spring! Namaste ~ MJ

Winner Winner Chicken Dinner!

Sorry it's been a while, but I was traveling and everything was status quo.  BUT, today was an amazing day!  I wrote previously that Con/Mom and Dad/Dave have been playing daily cards and they recently had some ladies to their house from her bridge group to get her acclimated.   Well, today Con/Mom went back to one of her daytime bridge groups today and WON! Whoooohooo! Don't ever underestimate her mind!

She's still working on the body day-by-day, though.  She's taken a break altogether from the physically therapy and keeping the OT and speech.  OT works on her upper body with concentration on the arm/hand.  It is making small strides and she is even going to start an adaptive golf clinic soon. Now that she has even more time to watch golf I think it is really eating away at her so she's doing anything she can to get back into the swing of things (pun intended). She's going to ride around with Dad/Dave in their couples league this year and hopefully she'll back with the ladies (and me!) next year.

Her speech is quite fluid but with small pauses on remembering the right word.  Still working on some names....we're still early into this recovery process and they say we can see changes through the first year after and sometimes even further out. So, we are optimistic and Con/Mom is even more so! I think her faith has a lot to do with it and all of the amazing prayer warriors she has!

I'll try to update weekly now or more if there is reason to share something significant.  Thanks for checking in and don't forget to consider supporting the American Heart and Stroke Assoc. to support research and prevention!  I will walk this May for Con/Mom, Kristy and Annette!  I'm sure you know someone, too!  If you want to join my team, the biggest community team in the area, it's called Heart Heroes!

Thanks so much and enjoy our Michigan weather! Not!

The Spirit is a Movin'

All of Con/Mom's work before in my weekly yoga class and strength training at St. James is paying off! She is standing on her right leg; the side that was severely affected. I think that's all we need to post for now! :)

Easter Blessings to all!

New Adventure and New Beginnings

Today held a new adventure for the Griffore's!  Con/Mom was ready to go from two-handed bridge (card game) to four!  She had previously been in a couple of bridge groups so they (Con/Mom and Dad/Dave) had two ladies over to the house.  Success!  It's such a great game for the mind in any state so now perhaps Dad/Dave can take a little break. :)

Everything in her therapy world is pretty much the same.  I picked her up from the DMC facility in Novi yesterday and she showed me the big smile they were working on!  It was great!  Now for those names.....

Dad/Dave had the pleasure of taking her to church this morning as she opted out of last Sunday.  He said it was a little emotional, but I'm sure it felt good to be back!  The plan is to go this Sunday for Easter and then we will enjoy a family brunch at the LaDuke's!

I pray this Easter week is peaceful for everyone as well as reflective.  The new beginning, spring equinox and full moon will turn a new page for us all and allow the past to fade away.  Let the present moment continue to bless us with love and kindness.

Thank you all so much who have donated to the American Heart & Stroke Assoc. this year as I support Con/Mom, my best friend as well as my sister-in-law.  Should you wish to donate and haven't yet done so, please click here.  I have supported AHA for many years and it continues to grow more important each year. Sigh. But, the good news is that cardiovascular disease in women are down 30% over the last ten years! Whoooohoooo!

A Touch of Light

We're at two weeks after the second surgery and doc said it will take about a month to get back to where she was before the second.  Con/Mom was overwhelmed with fatigue and was very worried about her progress, but today showed a sign of hope and reassured her and Dad/Dave that all is not lost!  Her arm/hand had a small movement this morning and brought tears of joy! Whew!  We needed that!

They've changed up the therapy a bit to focus on the upper body, i.e., arm and hand, which is considered OT.  PT is lower half of body.  She's making small strides in speech (connectivity with names) and facial awareness.  She's tenacious when it comes to practice and would love to resume her favorite things as soon as she can like golf and driving not to forget the simplistic things like writing and dressing! The right side of her face is numb so it is hard to know herself if she is smiling.

The brain is a complex thing and we are learning so much about it! For example, she can read a sentence with my name in it, but can't look at me and say my name.  Dad/Dave's name is becoming easier these days.  Some numbers are missed as she counts out loud, but her card games are very helpful in this area!

Con/Mom and Dad/Dave have figured out two-handed euchre and bridge and enjoy daily afternoon card sessions to break up their days.  Tuesday and Thursday are rest days as MWF consist of therapy. Dad/Dave is becoming a master chef by default, too! LOL  They are also enjoying the many meals provided by their beloved friends and family.

Have a super weekend everyone!  Love and prayers to all of us!
 

Back-to-Basics

Sorry to leave you all hanging for a while, but there wasn't much to report recently.  Con/Mom is still a tad tired from all of the events on her body and is slowly regaining strength!  Dad is a cooking machine and  she is following everything recommended to move her along.  She has the strength and will of the fighter you all know she is, but it just might not be moving as fast as she likes.

Therapy resumed last Friday and she is back to her MWF schedule.  Spring is in the air and she is truly enjoying her yard and watching the flowers arise and the birds sing!  The road of recovery is an arduous one, but she is fighting a great fight!  She deserves a medal, a gold star and a crown for all she has been through!

Dad/Dave deserves a matching crown, lots of JD and the award for Caregiver of the Year!  They are both equally exhausted, but their love is the solid foundation they need to get through this year.

Prayers for both are welcomed and appreciated!  Con/Mom's faith has not wavered and she hopes to return to church this Palm Sunday.  The energy escaped her last weekend. :(  Don't forget to hug the ones you love today and take a moment of deep gratitude for your health and functioning body!

A New Beginning

Con/Mom is settled back in at home and is enjoying the spring air! Gracie and I visited yesterday and she was ready to chat! First, however, she wanted Gracie to take off the tape on her neck, which Gracie graciously declined. LOL  I guess at 14 one is not quite ready to deal with the aftermath of a surgery. :)

We sat outside and enjoyed the birds while Jack enjoyed the birdseed scattered on the ground as well as small rocks as an afternoon snack. Con/Mom is very fatigued, but she presses on!  An afternoon nap gave her a little energy, but she will still need some time to recover from her recent hospital visit. Thus, therapy may resume on Friday or next week.  She needs to regain some weight, again, and get back to where she left off.  Baby steps backward to go forward...

All-in-all we're relieved to have the other carotid clear and give great thanks to her surgeon, Dr. Medley.  He took great care on this fine lady and he was prayerful right along side our family.  The energy coming Con/Mom's way is truly amazing and we are all so blessed with the outreach.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Happy Easter from Con/Mom and Dad/Dave!

Back at Home Safe and Sound!

We are soooo happy to report that Con/Mom is HOME! Whoooohooo! They scanned her throat this morning and the right side is now clear!  Left remains 100% blocked.  We're hoping this will give her a little more energy; doctor said it might.

So, she will resume her new daily/weekly routine with therapy 3 times per week including speech, PT and OT.  She was having some "new" feelings in her throat just before the recent surgery and we think that is more good news.  Her speech has improved tremendously and she continues to regain bits of function in the mouth, jaw, tongue area. Right arm/hand are taking some extra time.

Like before, she is a bit particular on visitors so just reach out to her or Dave/Dad if you feel the need to see her.  She loves the correspondence she has been receiving and she, like the rest of us, is anticipating spring!

The prayers worked and we look forward to a peaceful Lenten Season...

Moving Forward

Happy to report that Con/Mom is doing well and was moved out of ICU today!  She is ready to watch golf and get ready for her last night!

She will have an ultrasound tomorrow morning of her carotid and although it is a little swollen, they should be able to determine if any blockage exists.  Upon her positive report, they will release her Sunday afternoon.

She is is good spirits, i.e., her pizzaz is showing already, and she's got a nice team at Beaumont/Botsford.  We are prayerful that this time there will be no complications and in a few days she will resume her "normal" therapy routine at the DMC.

I'll see her again later today, but will most likely report tomorrow.  Thanks so much and enjoy our last few snow flakes! :)

Another Successful Hurdle

Con/Mom is awake and we are waiting to see her! We met with the doctor and he said it went "fine". He added a patch to widen the artery and there is a temporary drain that should come out tomorrow. One night in ICU and then release should be Sunday after they check her  over well! Her BP was a little erratic, but they will monitor...
We'll keep you abreast of any changes here; we're relieved but cautious. Namaste ~ MJ and family

Faithful Friday #prayforconnie

We apologize for the secrecy, but it was Con/Mom's wish to wait until today to let you know that she had surgery on her other carotid artery, today. Since her blood clot still remains on the left and the right is 80% blocked it was highly recommended to clear the right to restore blood flow.

Dave/Dad, Sue and I are here, once again, at Botsford Beaumont awaiting word of a successful surgery. Our angel went in with a brave but nervous heart. We know this is the best way to prevent another stroke.

We ask for no visitors at all. She will stay extra this time to monitor healing, etc. I will update daily again until we settle back into a routine of therapy and recovery.  Keep those prayers coming! I can truly feel them working and a peaceful presence.

Hodge Podge

Progress is being made at the Griffore household!  I was blessed with a beautiful morning with Con/Mom;  we massaged each other (hers was while she sat upright and she gave me a one handed service), we played cribbage, relaxed and had lunch. Couldn't ask for a more blessed day.  Sigh.

Suzie saw her in the PM and Dad/Dave got to get some work done.  Jack is Jack.

Con/Mom said her throat was feeling different so I asked her to stick out her tongue (that's one of her drills) and after a few attempts she did just that! Then I took a tissue and held in front of her mouth and asked her to blow (another task)....again, after a few attempts we had success!  She's been saying Dad/Dave's name a little more now, but couldn't find mine today although she said it on the phone to someone. lol  She's till progressing!

She enjoyed some split pea soup today made by some special friends, I believe Steve and Linda Hayden. I helped her get every last drop!  Thanks again for all of those cooking away for them!  And Tam, she loves the beautiful box you made for her with the heartfelt notes inside!  I even helped her send an E-card today to someone else who is recovering from a surgery!  You should see her practice sheets of writing her name with her left hand; she's determined as ever, but won't use a computer mouse yet to assist with her laptop instead of the touch pad.

Stay tuned for the weekend report as we'll be sure to have one.....#prayforconnie.  Thank you and God Bless!

A reminder from our amazing Uncle Steve:

James 5:13-18 The Prayer of Faith
13 Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. 14 Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. 16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

You've Come a Long Way, Baby!

India 2015

Breaking Bread

Con/Mom opted out of church today (I think it was a little heavy on the senses last week), but I kept her seat warm!  I was "cup" again this week and all I could think of was hearing Con/Mom's voice last week project through the church when I was up on the alter. :)  As always, lots of folks were asking about her.

Tonight we gather as a family to celebrate our Con/Mom! Call it the Griff-Mac-Duke dinner!  In the not so distant past Con/Mom opted for a family golf outing for her birthday so she had shirts made with Griff-Mac-Duke on them! lol We'll be missing a few special peeps tonight (Emily, Drew and Alex), but they are with us in spirit.  We get Em and Alex home next weekend for Spring Break so that'll be nice!

When I was helping Con/Mom clean out her emails we found a Pinterest recipe that her eyes lit up at so I am making it for her tonight: chicken (organic), with pesto, tomato and mozzarella.  Pairing it with a side of fettuccine and lots of veggies! Oh, and her favorite bread from Rocky's! :)

So, our dinner is complete at 7pm. :)  Mom was ready to go home, thus, we started early.  She was good.  Her black eye from tripping over Jack was now just a red bruise.  She eats well and gets around steady.  Luckily, we got our driveway and front steps repaved last year so they were easy for her to get up.

Our family dinner conversation consisted of processing chickens to driving stick shifts! Con/Mom's first car was a Falcon and she remembered it well!  The chicken talk ironically originated with Sue, proud owner of over a dozen chickens that they use for eggs only.  They apparently purchase their chickens from a local friend who send them out to get "processed" and Sue continued to explain how they place them in a cone and......

Humor is certainly necessary as we continue with the new Con/Mom.  But more so, just being together and breaking bread.  A simple action that brings nostalgia and family unity together.  Con/Mom even used her left hand to drag her right hand over her body to make the sign of the cross!  She did it twice to make sure she did it correctly! God bless her!

Stay tuned for an update on Wednesday.....as always we are eternally grateful for the prayers and support.  It is appreciated more than you will ever know. As Dad/Dave said to Sue and I the other day, "your mother is the bravest person he knows!". Sigh.

Family Fun!

Special memory at St. James

Hump Day

We're almost at our two month mark!  Con/Mom has made great strides and we've been told a lot or most of recovery happens in the first 2-3 months.  There will still be some progress through the year, but the milestones will be smaller.  She's a hard worker so we know there is more to come!

Con/Mom is diligently attending therapy 3x/week and has her homework, too!  They say patience is a virtue and it is in circumstances like this that patience is required for survival.  Some of you may know Dad/Dave doesn't always have a lot of that, but I have to say his patience has blossomed not unlike a lotus flower.  Sure, there have been some stressful moments (ok, a lot), but we have stuck together as a family and with the support of amazing friends we are all further ahead than many.

I had the most wonderful visit with Con/Mom yesterday for three hours! I saw her new machine that Dad hooks up her arm and back to and her body reacts with subtle movements.  Truly amazing! Then, as before, Con/Mom said she would like another AromaTouch technique. So, I applied eight different essential oils to her back and then we finished with her feet as she sat in a comfy chair. We're shooting to do this weekly as it brings a nice feeling of peace and balance to her.  We ended with a light lunch where Con/Mom indulged in her favorite....cheese!

This morning Dad/Dave sent a text that Con/Mom fell.  There was something big and brown in her way named Jack!  Apparently she is sporting a black eye now! Not sure the status of the dog....

Last report revealed two sweethearts playing bridge after an afternoon nap.  Cards have always been the center of our family and we are blessed she can continue to enjoy the many games.  Cribbage anyone? :)

Spiritual Sunday

We were going to try church the other week, but it was much too cold.  I think it was for the best as each day takes us forward and today was still emotional and a little overwhelming for Con/Mom.  The weather was in our favor and I picked up Con/Mom and Suzie and Mike brought her home.  We had our "core" group there with Auntie Carol, Sue, Mike and myself not to leave out Con/Mom's "church husband", Clarence. :)

Everybody was greeting her and it brought tears to Con/Mom's eyes as well as mine.  She was able to stand for most of the service, but took communion seated.  Her senses were on overload and she said, at one point, she may have to sit in the back, but she made it in our usual front row! For some reason she felt compelled to talk a lot and I think she forgot how to whisper.  I could hear her from the alter (Sue and I were Eucharistic Ministers today) speaking. LOL It made me chuckle through the tears I was holding back.  After mass, Clarence (90+ years young) helped her with her scarf. Awe.

At least we can cross that off of the list of things to do, I suppose. She is revving up her social life and Dad/Dave is getting out more, too!  Of course, he's the main chauffeur, but he got to one of his coin shows today and is finding solace in cabinet making again. He truly deserves not just a gold star but a Purple Heart for his exemplary care of our beloved Con/Mom! He even picked her out a fancy new cane with flowers on it that she adores. Sigh.

Tomorrow she dives back into her therapy and they will brush up on how to use the new device they have at home that stimulates her arm nerves....

Namaste ~ MJ

TBT (Throw Back Thursday)

This was September last year when Con/Mom and I went for training to become AromaTouch certified.  I love this picture because she is smiling, and I miss my Mom's smile. I did receive a big hug today! Felt so good!

The AromaTouch Technique is an essential oil application to the back and feet. This technique combines the unique benefits of human touch with the power of essential oils to create an overall wellness experience, i.e., homeostasis. Each essential oil in the AromaTouch Technique was selected for its individual aromatic properties, and for their aromatic properties when combined. The overall scent of the AromaTouch Technique is soothing, light, and pleasant to the senses. 

The reason I share it is because I was visiting this morning and when I walked in Con/Mom informed me we were doing this to each other today like we did in training.  We set up her new massage table in her beautiful garden room and we got her as comfortable as possible, which was still on her side. That darn right arm!

I was able to modify the process a bit and she admitted after that she felt great! Whooohooo!  We ran out of time for mine, but we'll save that for a later day. We agreed that I will come back and do one on Dad and when she truly feels up to it she can do one on me.  :)

She had a busy day yesterday with therapy, hair appointment AT her salon, lunch with her long-time friend/hairdresser and then a doctor's appointment! The doc appt. was an ultrasound of the neck and throat...results next week.

Dad will get training tomorrow to use the nerve stimulator at home for her arm.  Con/Mom is also working on name recognition with photos.

So, we continue on our journey with open minds and hopeful hearts.

Dinner Out! Happy V-Day!

It was Con/Mom's second dinner out and it went great despite the cold!  She is still reminding Dad/Dave of the little things like handing out the Valentine's and birthday presents. :)

It's not shown here, but she was wearing a scarf and she said she forgot people wore scarves so she wanted to put one on. She's got a hearty appetite and is gaining strength back daily! I was hitting golf balls yesterday and felt a little melancholy since she is my golf partner; I need her back in action and there's nothing more that she wants!

Some wonderful friends of hers stopped by yesterday, too, and delivered a beautiful St. Francis statue for her garden.....it had a special touch - a cape! :)  She will be flying again in no time!  There's a reason those friends are called the Goddesses!  They say recovery is much easier and more productive when the individual has a great support system and she certainly has that!

Wrapping Up Another Week

First week of outpatient therapy was a success!  On Friday they used a new device to stimulate her right arm's nerves and it did just that!  Dad shared that Con/Mom's eyes lit up with joy and amazement as did his!  They were advised to get the device for home use so they could continue to "wake up" her arm and hand.  It (right arm) has wonderful potential!

She was also given a new sleep position to try as she has been struggling with a good night's sleep due to the arm.  Con/Mom was very excited to go to bed last night! LOL  Awaiting the report if it helped....

They are having guests for dinner tonight and are venturing out with us tomorrow for a family birthday.  I was also on schedule to pick her up for church tomorrow, but she thought she would wait a week now due to the cold weather.  I agree.  She did make it in for ashes on Wednesday and the church staff was so happy to see her!

Keep warm everybody and thanks again for all of the love!  Hold those you love close tomorrow and cherish your Valentine(s)! ♥

Winter Wednesday

Despite the weather this morning we made it to day two of outpatient rehab.  Sue had a nice referral to this facility and I'm very happy that it is part of the DMC, a big supporter of the American Heart and Stroke Association! Whoooohoooo! It's National Heart Awareness Month btw. :)

I had the honor and pleasure of escorting Con/Mom to her home away from home.  What a cheery place mainly due to the abundance of windows and high ceilings.  She likes everyone she's working with so we are truly blessed!  The arm is moving along slowly; her left side recognizes it, for the most part, and there is a small level of pain.

Con/Mom still has her alter personality and when the therapist asked her how she was doing she responded candidly, "I'm good.  Aren't I supposed to be?". Her "husband" is picking her up and as she intently gazed at my face looking for my name, it escaped her.....

On the drive over I asked her if she knew what day it was.  I didn't mean day of the week and she knew that.  It is the anniversary of her mother's birthday;  she would have been 100 and she remembered.  The other event I was looking for was Ash Wednesday.  You may spot her at St. James for ashes and a possible mass this weekend.

She is enjoying her outings and she has become very spontaneous!  I even received my own surprise visit yesterday when I was on a conference call. LOL  She always asks about the kids and she is very observant whether it's her home or not.  We'll continue the journey until Con/Mom says "when".

In memory of Louise Carol Storm Kesleay. Love and miss you, Grandma!

Serene Super Bowl Sunday

A restful weekend at the Griffore household.  Con/Mom rested up for a new week of therapy beginning early this morning outside the home! She was excited after speaking with her yesterday.

Last entry I mentioned her getting out and about.  She certainly likes a change of scenery so she made it to Sue's for a quick dinner last week and she also made it her favorite watering hole, Rocky's! Now, keep in mind these outings are brief and fatigue her.  She moves methodically and by about 8pm each night her eyes grow heavy.

The changes I saw from Sunday-to-Sunday were in her outlook and demeanor.  She was more positive and she seemed to be more comfortable and at ease with "things".  I was resting by her last night and holding her right hand; she proceeded to tell me to make it work. :)  We actually had to finish watching the PGA Phoenix Open before we could put the Super Bowl on.....golf will always be on her mind. Sigh.

She'll begin the same therapy schedule of speech, OT and PT at a new facility.  Speech will pick up on Friday, however.  There are a lot of areas to work on.  I will say I haven't been sugar coating this blog, but I will say that there is a lot going on behind the scenes that offer daily challenges and keep our family on edge.  This road is not smooth and consistent; it is bumpy, takes turns and has many steep hills and pot holes!

We appreciate the prayers, support, meals, cards and kind words! We are humbly grateful for our friends and family lifting up Con/Mom during this arduous time.  Talk soon....

Thrilling Thursday!

Yes, I love alliterations! It's the writer in me. 😉

It truly was a thrilling Thursday! I had the most two lovely hours with Con/Mom that I've had in the last month! The shadow of doom and gloom had lifted and there was a peace in the air. Dad was working on a woodworking project in the garage and we were awaiting her physical therapist, Ahmed Shrief, the gentle giant.

Mom went right to work on her Exerpeutic Active Cycle Mini Exercise Bike and then......drum roll please........ first attempt at the stairs! She went bottom up and then walked down with assistance of Dad's newly installed handrails. I told her it deserved a "whooohooo!". She couldn't get it out but she was happy indeed! Plan is to sleep in her own bed tonight!

Much work is to be done, but we'll bank this accomplishment.  She said Dad's name for the first time earlier this week, but her name as well as mine escaped her today along with the number eight. 

Home therapy wraps up tomorrow and she begins the outbound journey on Monday! She'll continue with speech, OT and PT. I'll see the facility next Wednesday so stay tuned for that report....and Con/Mom is getting about and about a little with her driver (Dad/Dave) so don't be surprised if she arrives at your doorstep! She loves getting out now and it is helping Dad equally! 

Their favorite restaurant is waiting for her to come back so they may drop in at Rocky's next week. Andy and I are going to have a quiet Super Bowl game with them until she gets tired....sweet dreams Mumma. XO❤️⭐️

A New Month!

Sorry for the absence folks! There was nothing major to report over the weekend, but we're excited for the new week and month (National Heart Awareness Month btw)!

Con/Mom is on the move, but there is much work to be done! Her therapy team is in and out and there is talk that we could be wrapping up home therapy! That means she will begin out patient therapy soon! She loves to get out (and so does Dad/Dave)! This will give her more exposure to advanced options, e.g., equipment and specialists.

She is on a new diet of increased protein to gain some weight back so she is getting up extra early to fuel her engine.  Her PT therapist wants her to have more energy for therapy so she has joined Dad/Dave in his morning peanut butter toast routine. :)

So, stay tuned for updates and meanwhile, I thought I'd include a blast from the bast...

Wonderful Wednesday!

Just a quick note to say that Con/Mom is making nice walking progress!! She is still a bit tired, but she can get around with a walker and a shadow person (not including Jack who loves to stand right in front of her, ugh!).  She's also chuckling a bit and attempting smiles.

I mentioned her Christmas cards in the beginning of this blog and I bring it up again because Con/Mom thought she would finish what she started but realized she can't write!  :(  Dad/Dave may help her a bit so we'll see...if you didn't receive one yet, I've included the photo she used on it below:

We were talking about her being home and she said she couldn't think of a word to describe it.  I said we should call it "heaven".  She agreed!  There's simply no place like home!  We had some time in her garden room today; a nice change of scenery.

Her occupational therapist came today and said she may be able to get to outpatient therapy very soon! That was thrilling for her!  She even got a little ride in the car and she said it was very exciting! I bet!

I'm traveling for a few days, but will report on any news from Dad/Dave and Sue so stay tuned...

Home Therapy Commences

Therapy is underway at the Griffore house....PT and speech have been by to see Con/Mom (and an RN) and she is fully cooperative with them, more so than when they aren't there. :)  Her first PT session was like a chiropractic adjustment, but he took her to her edge without breaking her.  Speech gal was kind, loved Jack and will be back Friday.  She has some exercises to practice for both.

As I blew in and out today (was a brief visit to help Dad/Dave move a bed and help them order something online) I thought to myself, #prayfordave! Con/Mom is still not quite herself and the poor guy is taking a beating.  She's like a drill sergeant, but she did let out a nice thank you to me when I left. She'll be calm one moment and short tempered another.  She doesn't like anyone to stay too long, so Dad/Dave is kept on-the-go! We can only imagine what is going on inside her head, and we will never truly know.

So, the prayers are working, but please include Dad/Dave and ask for patience for all of her caregivers.  It truly takes special people to help others through this process.  I wish the therapists could have known Con/Mom before this event because they would see a different woman. We all have our callings in life and I put that of a therapist at the same level of a teacher.  Both require patience, empathy and knowledge.  #1 shout out goes to......DAD/DAVE!  A true superman, superhero and 110% dedicated husband! Love you!

Sunny Sunday

A new week and a new beginning...Con/Mom is settling in and is having a couple days to get used to a new routine.  And that goes without speaking for Dad/Dave and Jack, too! :)  Things are different (like sleeping on the main floor until she masters stairs again), but the gang is reunited and we were blessed with the energy of the full moon last night and the warm sun today!

Con/Mom was happy to get freshened up with a teeth cleaning from her best friend, Linda.  Hard to brush teeth with your opposite hand! She also had a visit from our good friend, Msgr. John, from our parish, St. James in Novi. I am keeping her seat warm at church until her return...her name was mentioned at mass today, too. Sigh.

We are certainly taking everything day-by-day or even hour-by-hour because if we plan too far ahead, we find ourselves backpedaling. :)  During her stay at Botsford/Beaumont, she said she wasn't going to drink again, but I was instructed to go on a wine run today. LOL Also on my list were two bicycle horns.  Yes, you can guess I'm sure; these are for her to let Dad/Dave or anyone know when she needs them if we are not near by. She can't blow air yet as to use a whistle so this is what we're using.

Overall she's really doing well!  Moving around a little such as up and down, but not too much distance. Arm is still what I like to call "asleep".  She likes things orderly and directed Dad/Dave to pick up the mess in the kitchen.  She kept me busy picking up everything else around her right down to the pillow on the couch!

Next adventure......home therapy. Stay tuned for the next chapter of Connie's adventures, aka, recovery and reclaiming her life!

Funny Friday

There truly is nothing funny about this whole situatin, but without a little comic relief we would never survive it! Like some of the amazingly funny cards and Con/Mom's response to them or her disdain for one of her speech therapists and the look in her eyes when she (therapist) walks in the room.

For the last 24 days Con/Mom has only said my name twice, and that was only when she was put on the spot by a therapist. To add to the lightheartedness, what she called me was my childhood name, "Marianne Jean the Queen".  Lol

Today, Dad just realized she was referring to him as her husband. He asked her his name and after contemplation, she said....."Jack 2"! They both laughed, Con/Mom as best she could. Apparently she calls Sue "whatshername".  So, we'll refresh her memory as things settle in at home tomorrow.

Yes, Dave/Dad will be there bright and early to take our special gal home where she belongs. He is all ready and Jack is home waiting, too. Therapy commences Monday and our new journey begins...

Sue and I each had special time with Dad today and we  are continuing to hold each other up. The prayers are working; please keep them coming!

True Love

My daughter caught me staring into space this morning and I told her I was just thinking, and I was. I was thinking about True Love.  Many of you probably don't know that Connie and Dave have known each other since they were eight years old.  They were married at 20 and had a dry wedding.  This year they celebrate 50 years of marriage. Yes, it's rare.  They are rare.

This morning my Mom called Dad early, we're talking 7am, and reminded him to bring the nail tools back because he was trimming her nails for her yesterday and he missed a few spots. This isn't the first little thing that he has done, it's one of many.  She now calls him "her husband" and he has seen her every day she has been there riding the waves of pain, sorrow, sadness and few rare moments of joy.

There was a day recently my niece was visiting and saw the interaction of Mom and Dad.  Dad was saying goodbye and he was crying.  My niece started to cry not because of Con/Mom's condition, but because of the love they have and share.  They are a team.  They are committed to caring for each other until the end and have respected each other for all of these years.

Sure they have little miffs, but who doesn't.  There has never been mistreatment.  To give you a little more insight into this beautiful world of theirs without getting too personal, let me tell you this: every night Mom would say "I'll make the coffee".  In the morning, Dad would get up early to let out the dog, feed him and bring Mom her coffee in bed.  Then, she would get up and make his lunch.  Since Dad was still working a bit up until Dec. 30 he was still in need of his lunch.

When I was on a trip with my parents two years ago we saw a dog running along the beach.  It was a chocolate lab. :) Mom had been yearning for a dog and always joked that she would get one when Dad "kicked the bucket". It was Mother's Day weekend and on that Sunday, my Dad gave my Mom a card that said she could get a dog. They always sign their cards to each other "#1 Buddy".  Dad drew a paw print on that one, too.Jack has been her new baby, her companion and has given her the greatest joy and he will continue to do so.  The first few days in the hospital she was already asking for him.  What a blessing that Dad caved in and  gave her this joy, this love.

So, that's just a small morning anecdote about their love.  I hope you are blessed in life to experience just a day of what they have.

Wednesday....The a Final Countdown

Sorry if we left you in suspense, but everything is fine. Our meeting Monday was interesting. Interesting in the sense that discussion of her release was like ping pong although there was one constant...Con/Mom saying approximately 20 times in ten minutes that she wanted to go home. Her date went from next Friday to this Friday to Sunday and now it is Saturday. Lol

She's shown improvements in demeanor since there is an end in sight. Her over three week stay was emotionally draining on her and us. She smiled tonight with no teeth showing making a comment that there is nothing to smile about there. Gracie and I brought her carry out from one of her favorite places, Rocky's in Northville. She loved it and even had some chocolate ice cream for dessert.

Therapy continues through Friday and a new team will come to the house beginning next week. Please run visitor requests through Dad, Sue or myself and we will check with the Queen. 😍

Weekend Update

Con/Mom was able to see her buddy, Jack, on Saturday.  It's a short visit of about ten minutes, but it does the job! We had egg salad I brought from home for lunch and she enjoyed that, too. She is counting down the days and knows that each day of the week is the last one there. :)
Dad/Dave had a nice evening making up a game of bridge for two.  He brings her coffee from home every morning since it is their normal morning ritual...
She had a quiet Sunday, but today (Monday) will hold lots of therapy for her! We have a family discharge meeting and Sue is getting her training so we will all be approved to assist her in getting up and down, etc.
Thank you all who already donated to the American Heart and Stroke Assoc.!  Mom was always a supporter and when I told her about the picture I was going to use she clearly remembered it.  In it, we were at the 2014 AHA luncheon and were sipping martinis before the event at MGM.....someday. I remember Rosie O'Donnell was the keynote speaker, a survivor of a heart attack, and her story was very inspiring.  With your help, we are creating awareness and funding research for the #1 and #5 killers.

Friday Update: One Week to Go!

We didn't forget to post yesterday, we're just starting to update you every other day since there is less to report daily, etc.  The first two weeks we see a lot of change, then it will slow down a little so the changes are more subtle.  She's trying to fine tune dressing, eating, etc. Those simple things we take for granted.

Progress is being made everyday! And........we have a release date of NEXT FRIDAY! Of course, these things can change, but it is looking good! She will go home (and most likely not leave for a few weeks) and start home therapy.  Then, we will take her to outpatient therapy for speech, OT and PT.

I spent the entire morning with her going through training for homecare.  She gets tired quickly, but who wouldn't after what she's been through? Continued works goes into her entire body (leg is progressing and arm is, well, being difficult). She wants to get home badly and now she can see the light at the end of the tunnel!  She can be in the comfort of her home soon and hopefully she will get some better sleep as it's been a struggle there.

So, we're making preparations (Dad is putting up some rails), meeting with the hospital staff and looking forward to each new day! Con/Mom is still adamant about no visitors so please be patient with her recovery process/wishes. She has yet to crack a smile, but the spunk arises when necessary. :)  She'll get to see Jack this weekend again, too!

Wild Wednesday

Con/Mom walked down a hallway with assistance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We still have some other obstacles including the arm, but this is a beautiful thing!

She will also get her hair done today at the hospital so I'm sure that will lift her spirits!  Thanks, Diane from Legato!

Tuesday Tidbit

Today, Con/Mom continued with her new demeanor of spitting bullets at Dad for not taking her home. We are hoping to look back at these arduous days and laugh.

Good news is that her right leg is moving in a positive direction, i.e., continuing to gain movement. The arm, not so much, at all. They say it has been most affected and would be the last thing to move, if it's going to.

She is continuing to increase speech, but she's working on volume and projection. Still no smile, laughter or sparkle.

I was driving home from teaching a yoga class tonight and just wanted to pick up the phone to chat with her. :( It's those little things in life that are truly the big things, blessings.  Luxuries we overlook daily. The future is not ours that's why they call the present a gift, not to be a cliche. I teach my students to live in present moment awareness and it is this mindset (and my practice) that allows me to manage this new adversity day-by-day.  It's the only way.

Healing through a stroke is odd.  It takes patience.  Recovery has no guarantees, but for the faithful, we know it is not our will but His.  There is a plan and sometimes we are not meant to understand. We are meant to accept the things we cannot change and have the courage to change the things we can. Good night and God bless.

Manic Monday

Well, each day brings new things and we're not quite to the point of having multiple good days in a row.  The thought of another week in the hospital is making any angelic attributes from Con/Mom take flight.  It is more than blatant.  Connie has no problem verbalizing her disinterest with the current situation. She set the stage of the week stating no visitors other than her hairdresser! LOL

So, I know everyone is eager to see her, but trust us, she really has no tolerance and needs a lot of space right now. Even Dad, Sue and I are limiting our time with her, but of course, 2/3 of us are there daily now for eating assistance, laundry, misc. and to get our hugs and kisses in. :)

We're awaiting feedback from her food test today of a salad.....

PART 2: She passed!  Onward and upward at least in the food department!!!!!!!

And, Dad wants to add that there is so much mail coming to their house for Con/Mom that the mail lady came to the door and asked about her. Awe! ♥

Sunday....a Day to Rest

Mom is having a somewhat restful weekend with no therapy. As you can see from yesterday's post, she got to see Jack.  While she doesn't smile yet, we're confident her heart was smiling.  She allowed me to perform a brief hand massage technique called Armoatouch with frankincense essential oil. :)

This morning was special because Sue and I joined her in the hospital Chapel for a Christian prayer service.  It was short, sweet, sentimental and somber. Meals were typical and then we retired to her room for a little football, but she fell asleep as she settled in.  It was peaceful to just be there with her.  Now, her "husband" as she calls Dad, will help her go through her fan mail.

We are prayerful that Monday will bring progress and perhaps graduation to regular food.....stay tuned and thank you from the bottom of our four hearts for supporting this wonderful lady and our family. Namaste, MJ.

p.s. Two people shared with me this beautiful verse from Isaiah 43:2 in the last few days:

   When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.

Saturday, Glorious Day!

This was Connie approved! :)

Friday, January 8

Normally we'd say TGIF, but for us, each day blends in with the other and it's like a Tuesday. My morning usually begins at 6AM with a drive to see my Mom after the kids are off to school. She was getting freshened up upon my arrival and she got ready for breakfast.  These things we take for granted she has assistance with. She noticed some of her flowers needed freshening up so I was in charge of that. :)  Once a gardener, always a gardener. :)
She went off to PT and as I said goodbye I got a tiny kiss. This is great for many reasons, but medically it means some more awareness is coming back to the mouth.  Her mumbling is becoming more clear, but she just needs to project sound. I told her I'd see her tomorrow and she said, "I'll be here."! lol
p.s. I brought her a peppermint patty yesterday at dinner time and she loved it! I said it was for dessert and she softly said, "Give it to me now!". Yes, m'am! :)

Thursday, January 7

Well, we are all emotionally drained....Mom/Con, Sue, Dad and myself.  This daily climb, battle, fight is exhausting, but we will persevere! Yes,yesterday Connie's eyes were perky, but her soul has been shattered.  The Connie we all knew took a vacation, but we know God will send her back to us soon. The result of the stroke/insult is not only physical, but emotional.  She does her daily work, but she is not unlike a grumpy old man, sorry guys.
The good news of the morning/day is that she got upgraded from nectar pureed food to mechanical grade.  Sounds yummy eh!?  Well, since she almost gave up eating last night because the food is so bad this is a good thing!  I came loaded with pudding, yogurt, humus, creamy egg salad and guacamole, but she was tested by her speech therapist and was able to eat a pancake and can now have her coffee without a thickener. Whew! I bet she would love a glass of wine!
Her right leg has some nice movement, but by the end of the day it is lifeless with fatigue just like the rest of her body.  Sue and I were embraced in a tearful hug in the parking lot last night, but God sent comforting words from an angelic stranger. Dad was comforted by a beloved friend, thank you MR!
Her arm has been most severely affected so it will be the last thing to regain function in some capacity.  Meanwhile, the left stays strong and who knows, maybe she'll become ambidextrous!
#prayforconnie

Wednesday, January 6 Morning

Dad said he got a treat this morning! She was already dressed and watching GMA!  She is wide awake and wants to go home this weekend. :(  Still a lot of work to do, but sounds like this will be a kick butt day!  He says she looks the best ever!  Stay tuned.....

If you would like to send a note to her, just mail to Dave/Dad and he will bring in.  It will be faster than sifting through hospital mail and they way she changes rooms it might be safer.  She holds things up with her left hand and we know she can read.  When I brought the church bulletin to her she went right to the back to see the Eucharistic minister schedule that she is usually on.

Dave Griffore
38673 Southfarm Lane
Northville, MI 48167

Tuesday, January 5

 Connie is getting used to a new routine for the next few weeks. We are more like observers during the day while she is hard at work. Very nice to see her in her own clothes! She slowly wheeled herself down to therapy room with good arm and leg. She's still very tired; last Satuday was her best day so far. They estimate, and we stress estimate, she may be where she's at for around three weeks. She really likes her space and privacy so please be empathetic to her and our needs/wishes. We will certainly continue to keep you all abreast of her progress. We hope to reunite her with her doggie this weekend, but it has to be outside....
We asked that she be moved to a bed next to a window so they just moved her. She was in the middle of the room with five people before.

Social Prayer Chain

 I wanted to broaden the prayer circles and energy for Connie  so please use #prayforconnie  on any Twitter or Instagram post and let the power of prayer lift her up each day. Thank you.  I'll write report soon after I see her for breakfast ....

Monday, January 4 Midday

Connie bounced back today enough to get transferred to IPR (inpatient rehab)! She ate a better breakfast than yesterday, went through PT, OT and speech therapy. Lots to work on! Beginning tomorrow, she will go through 3 hours of therapy 5 days a week. She gets to wear her own clothes, too! They are really moving her along, but we have no idea of how long she will be in IPR.  Next stop.......HOME! There will be about a year of therapy, they say, for now. Right side is still in neglect, i.e., left side doesn't know right exists. She actually looked at a magazine a little today and held a cup to drink; these things are with the left side, of course.

So, shout out to Connie!!!!!! She's frustrated for sure and wants to go home. She's giving everybody a hard time on and off. My heart was broken yesterday, but there was renewed hope today as she let me help her eat, etc. She'll most likely be pooped after 3 hours of therapy, but she will get stronger! There was a little negativity today, but more so determination.

Sunday, January 3 Noon

They say there will be ups and downs....today the sparkle is missing but she was up all night so for now they account it  to fatigue. She was performing magic tricks yesterday and we think she exhausted herself. She went through some therapy and had a tiny bit of breakfast but her eyes are not really open today. 😔 They have seen what she can do so they are letting her batteries recharge.

Connie was in the middle of sending out her holiday cards so if you did not  receive one this year now you know why. She was waiting for our beautiful family photo from our annual holiday brunch.

I hope to have some good things to add this evening. Keep the prayers coming please. 🙏 They are working!

Saturday, January 2 Part 2

Well, in Connie's world she makes dramatic changes within hours! Her zest and spitfire is taking over and she lifted her bad leg several inches midday. Granted, she couldn't move her bad arm like she did yesterday. Then, she started communicating that she wanted to eat and drink but they wouldn't give her anything until she could prove she could swallow. So, she did just that later in the day after moving out of ICU and went through therapy. She was rewarded with puréed food!
We are so pleased with her continued progress and are prayerful that it will continue in a positive direction. We are told to expect plateaus, but our Connie is on a mission! Praise God!

Saturday, January 2, 7AM

A quick recap for those who don't know how she got here: a few months ago she had a TIA with a UTI and they ran lots of tests to find she had very blocked carotid arteries. She is super healthy with low BP and cholesterol but apparently plaque doesn't affect cholesterol levels but they did put her on some meds. During a recheck recently they found her blockage to have increased significantly and risk of stroke was high so they ordered carotid endarterectomy. Tuesday they operated on her 80% blocked left carotid and it went very well. They released her next day and she went home only to have a big stroke on left side within an hour leaving her right side lifeless including speech. She has since regained consciousness and is working with daily therapists, a vascular team and neurologists.

We are requesting no visitors right now other than immediate family and those we have asked to help with shifts. Thank you. I'm sure soon we'll change that.

When I walked in Mom's room she was awake and started "clearly mumbling". 😍 She said "this is a disaster!". I'd have to agree with her.
We've already had several doctors in for morning rounds and the good news of the day is that they have put in orders to move her to a room where she can start to do more extensive therapy. Just a little low sodium and potassium and high BP. She is checked hourly for neurological changes and she still can't swallow but she did lick her lips a tiny it. Her right side is pretty lifeless but a tiny bit of movement is seen here and there in arm and leg. I have received approval to use my certified pure therapeutic grade (CPTG) essential oils on her! CT scan today, too.

What's in a Name? A handful of LOVE!

Because Connie has touched your life in some capacity you are now here reading about a life event that took us all by surprise. You may call her Connie, goddess, Contessa, Aunt, Grammy, #1 Buddy or Mom, but but we call her doesn't really matter because she is a star shining in all of our lives. Dad/Dave, Sue and I thought this would be the best way to keep everybody abreast of her progress as things change daily and so many of you have reached out and we are finding it a bit hard to keep up.

Connie is first and foremost a mother and wife. If you are a blessed to have Connie in your life, how do you think we feel to have her in our family? She is a piece in our puzzle, the angel on our shoulder, the rock we rely on, the queen of the garden, the wind beneath our wings, the apple of our eyes and the frosting on our cake!

We appreciate all of the heartfelt messages, prayers, support and meals our friends and family have provided. The timing of this sad event provided us with time for the shock to settle in, but in two days Sue and I will be juggling work, home and kids along with supporting our father, caring for our mother and grieving when time allows it. Together, Dad, Sue and I will communicate to those concerned here as we shift our New Year's focus on our loving wife and mother.

The prayer warriors are in full swing so please join us as we ask our Lord to guide us through these uncharted waters, hold us all in His grace and allow the medical team the best discernment and judgment when making decisions on Connie's care, future and life.

Namaste ~ Marianne aka MJ